Friday, 10 March 2017


        " I think I like flaws.. I think they make things interesting..."
-Sarah Dessen


    7.1 billion of us and yet all made uniquely apart. With our own life to lead and of course with our own set of flaws. The beauty that resides in imperfection is what perhaps makes us flawed. For there is none who can be the ultimate body of creation. Some deem their flaws to be lesser than those of other. Some wallow in the fear of exposing their flaws to the big wide world out there. The most confident of us all, yet deep within knows that he or she is not without a blemish. At times we love to come up with excuses to justify our shortcomings. To the extent of ignoring the drawbacks which we have. To not acknowledge them is perhaps where we fall behind. It is liberating to know the things which make you dissimilar from the crowd. Anger, fear, anxiety, and a string of other such emotions up our sleeves to hiss at the slightest indication. To the other extreme of the spectrum we find the ones who forever be harsh upon their own selves for not being able to live up to the expectations set upon them by the society. Some not giving a thought about what the world thinks. There's the great mix of personas.
     What a wonder it is when we ourselves at times end up being the ones least aware of our own pitfalls. The world points it out to us in its own subtle ways. And there are some who take it to their hearts and never rise from the complex that surrounds them henceforth. Yet it is a path of forever discovery to find the things that make us flawed and accept them as they are. For they are what separate each one of us from the milling crowd. This is where a hint of caution needs to be dished out. For let not our flaws be a reason to hurt the ones around us. Let them be the spots of colour on this canvas of monotony. Accept them and with the head held high move on ahead. Working upon the ones which harm us and the ones we love and yet not aiming for perfection but in the search for bliss in this very moment.
    When you try to accept that every individual in his or her own right is never meant to be perfect, it is perhaps then you can truly love. To give unconditionally, despite setbacks. To live through the moments when these flaws threaten to take over and crush you to the ground. For yes, there are times when you feel giving up wouldn't be that bad an idea. Try to be grateful for this experience of feeling alive and kicking, despite the blemishes that mar this road. For it will always be the journey that will matter in this moment than the destination we all head for. To not be condescending or even be compromising is the balance we all yearn for. A moment taken to live for your own selves, making peace with the individual you have grown to be in this moment. For after all it was all the downs which dotted the ups and made you the person you are. More often than not we aren't what we wanted to be in this moment, and the grass will always be greener on the other side. Accepting this truth is tough a task for all of us, and yet we all persevere in vain if we don't. Choose this moment to embrace your flaws and the flaws of the ones around you.. For there's beauty to be found even being flawed!!...

Friday, 3 March 2017

Disconnect awhile - 5 alternatives

 The need to be away from the constant onslaught of media in a wide variety of forms sometimes makes you ponder. To think about the depth to which we all have been taken over by technology.

1. Pause the yearning for acceptance... 
Many a social networking sites have created an entirely different world aloof from the real world. The one where all of us have a presence and a virtual persona. The earlier you are hooked on to a social media platform the more you feel the need to be accepted. The reactions, likes, +1s all of them adding to our own little box of happiness. To feel acknowledged. The solution lies in realising that our real personalities matter much more than our online presence and the fame we gather there.

2. Choose your feed wisely..

It is all but inevitable to have a presence online on some form of media in the least. To choose who you follow and the pages you like goes a long way in harming or helping you. The feed which we scroll through leaves subtle impressions on our mind and somehow affect our mood too. To have a not just a happy feed but one which enriches you by imparting knowledge could be a good alternative. After all we are what we let into our lives.

3. Loosing out on the present moment.. hold on..

The scroll goes on forever. There's always one or the other video, or a meme to 'rofl' at, there's always a newer snap story to follow.. The stories simply don't end. In the process we let go of this very moment. This moment which once lost is lost forever. The time you have in your hand is never coming back, hence making it all the more important to spend it wisely. And sure wouldn't we know how east is it to lose track of time.

4. Switch it off.. 

The fear of losing on catching up more often than not pushes many to be hooked onto the network. 'What if I miss out?' is always the question. For these are times when you need to follow popular trends. Engrossed into our smart phones trying their best to keep us there. The first thing we end up doing when we wake up every morning is check into this maze of virtual connections. Choose to switch off the data for a while. For a moment to let go of the fear of losing out. To realise that it is all right to be out of the circuit for a while. To choose to be on your own.

5. Explore other avenues.. Pursue a hobby..

Remember the times when we had to write essays on 'My favourite hobby'. With the virtual lives we lead, the word hobby has lost its importance on us. The passion associated with pursuing a hobby has somewhere been lost in this crazy paced life. Take time out to know yourself better. To simply sit by a veranda and smile. To learn a thing you were unaware of. It is just a matter of time before you already won't feel that you are missing out on the social network. Time yourself. Give yourself a break from this onslaught. It helps for sure.